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The DJ-Fucker

In Pronoia by Amanda Tan

DJs – modern day rockstars. So with that development, comes the evolution of “groupies”. Hence, The DJ Fucker, was born. I’m not talking about a DJ who is a fucker here, I’m literally talking about the DJ fucker in the most carnal of ways. An over the decks, under the sheets sort of scenario.

There’s a couple of girls I know who’ve supposedly paved their names in the circle by basically… doing the DJ. And conversations will sounds like; “Do you know Amidala is dating DJ Deathstar? Like OMFG.”

dj groupiesAnd suddenly she’s the droid everyone is looking for. Just by getting her kiap kiap probed by someone who raises the roof, or… makes fists pump (that’s a more modern way of saying raise the roof right?).

The funny thing is that these girls, I know some of them, and they are so much more than a DJ fucker. Smart, intelligent, talented girls who are somehow known as the chick dating DJ Vader. So this got me wondering whether there was something truly fucked up about them, or really fucked up about the people who zone in on the fact that Amidala is dating a DJ.

I was watching Scandal on TV the other day, and one of the characters, Abby Whelan, who’s the white house press secretary on the show, lamented that in every article written about her, they mention who she’s dating. Whereas her partner, a famous political fixer in the series, has articles written about him all the time with no mention of her at all.

In order to mention my name they also have to report to the world that there’s a man who wants me. My work, my accomplishments, my awards — I stand at the most powerful podium in the world, but a story about me ain’t a story unless they can report on the fact that I am the girlfriend of DC fixer Leo Bergen. Like it validates me, gives me an identity, a definition. They can’t fathom the concept that my life doesn’t revolve around you.Abby Whelan, Scandal

Assuredly I say to you, this is a gender bias that spreads over different industries. The nightlife and creative scene is no different.

As I thought about this article, I thought it unfair to the DJ Fucker. It’s not her fault she fell in love with a DJ. It’s our fault defining her that way. Don’t you think?

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Amanda Tan

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Amanda Tan is a filmmaker, VJ, writer and artist based in Singapore. Amanda is currently the director of Empyreal, a creative company specialising in film production, live visuals, and content creation. Amanda writes mostly the ratchet things that appear on Psymbiosis.

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